In the virtual world... innumerable possibilities.

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The relationship is over. Between tears on the pillow, a question is stuck in my head: do I want to be alone? After a few days, new questions come to my mind and my heart. Where can I meet someone interesting? Will I fall in love again?

Technology is a method of approach to dating that every day gains more followers in the form of relationship websites and apps. It's a modern and effective modality of meeting new people, forging encounters, fantasizing about relationships, and why not virtually find love?

I thought I knew everything about human relationships but I was completely wrong . We are always learning, discovering and reviewing concepts ... only in movement, life is fun. And I, suddenly, became an apprentice of myself in the world of virtual relationships. With a simple enter, I can narrow the distance and with just a delete, end the existence of ephemeral loves. "Hello, I'm Mark, I like your profile and I want to meet you; I'm Nanna, I do not know if I want to meet you, but you can convince me; I am João, a Portuguese photographer and I just want to have a conversation; I'm Rafa, I'm good at talking; I am Didier, I do not want commitment, I just want to have fun; I'm Ana, I'm looking for a serious commitment ... "

Everyone is looking for someone for various reasons, willing to challenge distances, and recreate old times. A menu of intentions and characters in search of a script: those who only navigate at dawn - married, mischievous - those who move in the shadows and do not let themselves to be seen clearly; the solitaries, who need to speak, talk about themselves, but do not want to listen to the other, who will never meet, incompetent for any kind of exchange.

Oh, sometimes you can run into the voyeur, a classic type whose pleasure is to see the other, to enjoy their image, fixed on specific parts of the body. Being the showcase is a unique condition for a relationship in the virtual world. There are also the anxious, eager for affection, even if ephemeral and false. No matter what, they need affection and are so easily a prey for scammers, crooks that circulate on these websites just to take money from you.. Scammers are easy to identify, often said to be in isolated areas: in Africa preferably engaged in very profitable activities, or serving in the American army in the Middle East or Asia. Poor men, so needy and unprotected ... Scammers, men and women, always tell a personal tragedy; they identify the victim as their soul mate and although they are uncreative and repetitive in the messages they send, they persist, and when discovered and denounced, return with a new profile, similar to the previous one, because they think they are invincible. They survive on the anguish and hope of those who cannot stand to be alone. There are various resources on the internet - websites, blogs - that help identify these crooks.

It is also easy to find the deceivers, experts in seduction, transiting on the threshold of ecstasy and pain. They come full of promises in exchange for virtual caresses, sporadic joys, and unconfessable desires. They could go to erotic websites, but their enthusiasm survives only from the seduction of ordinary people, who are imprisoned, and throw themselves blindfolded and occasionally fall in love. The deceiver tangles his victim, who might even suspect, but then concedes until the final blow happens: the fatal pressure of the delete ... I always wonder what hurts more? A blow to the pocket or the heart? The combination of the two can be hopeless ...

The good news is that despite the mishaps, it is possible to also find people who are there to exchange experiences, talk and eventually start a relationship and those who are looking for someone to fall in love with and live a great love.

In the virtual world, the first attraction is rational; the photos please, but it is the profile's information that definitively appeals. In a club or bar, the first attraction is immediately physical. In the virtual world, everything seems to be very fast, but it also takes a ripening time for the first attraction to be confirmed in the exchange of messages, in the visual conversations. Of course, we have to consider that in the virtual world I tell another just what I want him to know. That also means I can present a fantasy of myself. But also in the real world this happens ... Everything is a game of opportunities and unveiling.

Like a GPS that facilitates access to remote places but does not identify hazards on the way, communication technology transposes the obstacles of distance and time, brings people together, but can not read hearts and minds. This is a unique and exclusive task of human perception, without intermediaries... Is it difficult? Yes it is; But, it's going to happen...